Coincidence or fate? Answers on a postcard mon amie.
Do you believe that things happen for a reason or the age old saying of 'what goes around comes around'? Are these just cliched babble cited by 'intellects' who simply make shit up in order to make the masses feel hopeful and get out of bed on a Monday morning? Does the universe need to balance good and evil to avoid the end of days?... discuss!
On 7th July 2005 the horrific London terrorist bombings took place. If I had left my flat in East London 20 minutes later which would have been the regular time I left in the mornings, I would have been on the Circle Line train when one of the bombs detonated. Now, was this fate that I thankfully got up early that morning and God/Allah/Buddha/He-Man was looking after me, or was it purely because I was being a greedy shit and wanted to grab a bagel and hot chocolate before I got into work so allowed myself an extra 20 mins... Is it fate that you bump into the love of your life whilst walking the dog, or just a coincidence that you both happened to be walking the dog at that particular time? Aarrrgh I dunno! It's like that Alanis Morisette song 'Ironic'...
It's like raaaaaaaain on your wedding day
It's a free ride when you've already paid
It's the good advice that you just didn't take...
Isn't it Ironic... don't you think? NO ALANIS IT ISN'T!! It's just unlucky love! Your song is incorrect... but extremely catchy so I will let you off.
I used to think that 'things' happen for a reason and embroiled myself in the belief that certain aspects of our life are beyond our control and comprehension, but now I'm not so sure. Lets take the art of a broken heart par example. So you get dumped. Sucks to be you! Your lover may have cheated on you or they may have just fallen out of love with you. Do you sit there and think 'Oh it wasn't meant to be'... 'They weren't 'the one'... or perhaps 'The little shit will get what is coming to them!' Of course you bloody do! I can guarantee that friends and family will projectile vomit these 'inspirational' ego boosting words of wisdom at you because lets face it, they're not gonna say "you totally deserved it as you're way too ugly to love!" Sometimes shit does indeed happen. Someone will break your heart at some point in your life and it will fucking hurt. Fact. If they fall out of love with you there is nothing you can do and you can't really blame the heartbreaker for this, so no need for hate or malice BUT when it comes to cheating... that's when it all kicks off! Cue angry Black woman. This is when you are allowed to ask 'the gods' to inflict as much pain as humanly possible on the mother f*cker. BUT again, sometimes the person who causes you all this hurt will simply skip away into the distance with no remorse and live happily ever after. They won't die a painful death, they will not get fat and they will probably date a super model! Karma does not kick them in the ass and fate did not bring you misfortune. Shit happens. The baddie wins.
I am torn. I would like to think that the villain gets their comeuppance in the end but am I simply living in a Fairytale? Movies, music and bed time stories portray idealism and not realism. Maybe I need to grow up, grab a proton pack and get equipped as my friend SK would say. I appreciate that life is not a fairytale and only you can create your own destiny, but there is still a small part of me that would like to think that good things happen to good people and dispell the statement that life's a bitch and then you die! I know that my heart is forever going to be worn on my sleeve, I can't help it. And I know I'm going to continue to rub my Happy Buddha's belly every morning when I wake up hoping I will get lucky in some way, shape or form. Sometimes we just need something to believe in otherwise we might as well just lob ourselves under a bus!